Tough Call: A Mediation Podcast

Twenty-Three: Mediation Book Club and AITA

Another AITA? Why not! Write to us at toughcallmediation@gmail.com if you or someone you know has a great issue to share. This is quite possibly the juiciest and most intense AITA yet! We want o hear your opinions! Dale and CT look deep into a potential toxic friendship and an accusation of "SWF" - where is the truth? Neighbors, kids and dogs- who is in the "right"? Sibling rivalry in adulthood - where are the lines? 
Welcome to Tough Call: A Mediation Podcast ©. This podcast was produced and sponsored by Ehler Ryshpan Bhatti Mediation & Legal Services, LLP: serving Ontario and New York, with French bilingual services in Civil Litigation matters. Translation in Spanish, Mandarin and Arabic also available.
CT Ehler is our resident Mediator and Licensed Paralegal, practicing Provincial law in Ontario. Connect for mediation directly with CT Ehler at ehlermediation@gmail.com for private mediation services.
Dale Sheldon is our resident non-Mediator, here to soundboard topics and weigh in on issues.
Jean Sarrazin is our Sound engineer and technical advisor.
This podcast commenced on October 30, 2023, and was first published April 8, 2024.
Connect with Tough Call: A Mediation podcast through socials here-
Facebook: fb://profile/100083385488618
LinkedIn: https://ca.linkedin.com/in/ehlerservices
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toughcallmediate
Email CT and Dale with your questions to toughcallmediation@gmail.com
Looking for mediation resources? Connect with our referral hub through Ehler Ryshpan Bhatti Mediation & Legal Services at info@ehlerservices.com
Cover Art credits: “Tough Call” by Norman Rockwell. For more information, visit the Norman Rockwell Foundation at https://www.nrm.org
Music track: “Intermediary thoughts” by Tyrai Laughton.
Show links -
www.erblawservices.com

Twenty-Two: Managing Disputes in Mediation with Karen Smith

CT sits down and talks with one of her mentors and friends, Karen Smith, a fellow paralegal and Mediator. Karen shares how she got into Mediation and legal services, and was persuaded to get into Social services first. She speaks on her experience in high risk domestic reports, human trafficking rescue, and how it built her career in Criminal law today. She talks about the flags around narcissistic behaviors, and her observations around other behaviors. Karen shares some of her insights on what can build up in a relationship that leads to high conflict issues in mediation. This is a great episode for mediators to look at what comes up in their screening and how individuals come into sessions by asking "what is the relationship?" and "what is the real thing that is being lost?". Karen offers tips for mediators to carefully observe the behaviors of who initiates, identifying the "talker" motivations, and other flags that can arise in mediation.
Welcome to Tough Call: A Mediation Podcast ©. This podcast was produced and sponsored by Ehler Ryshpan Bhatti Mediation & Legal Services, LLP: serving Ontario and New York, with French bilingual services in Civil Litigation matters. Translation in Spanish, Mandarin and Arabic also available.
CT Ehler is our resident Mediator and Licensed Paralegal, practicing Provincial law in Ontario. Connect for mediation directly with CT Ehler at ehlermediation@gmail.com for private mediation services.
Dale Sheldon is our resident non-Mediator, here to soundboard topics and weigh in on issues.
Jean Sarrazin is our Sound engineer and technical advisor.
This podcast commenced on October 30, 2023, and was first published April 8, 2024.
Connect with Tough Call: A Mediation podcast through socials here-
Facebook: fb://profile/100083385488618
LinkedIn: https://ca.linkedin.com/in/ehlerservices
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toughcallmediate
Email CT and Dale with your questions to toughcallmediation@gmail.com
Looking for mediation resources? Connect with our referral hub through Ehler Ryshpan Bhatti Mediation & Legal Services at info@ehlerservices.com
Cover Art credits: “Tough Call” by Norman Rockwell. For more information, visit the Norman Rockwell Foundation at https://www.nrm.org
Music track: “Intermediary thoughts” by Tyrai Laughton.
Show links -
www.erblawservices.com
www.essentialmitigation.com/about
 

Twenty-One: Mock Parental Coordination over Princess

Today we announce something a little different: a mock mediation. Mediators in training get to practice these in preparation for mediation. CT invites her firm partners, Jasvir Bhatti and Daniel Reuven-Ezekiel Côté-Ryshpan.
Stay tuned for more mock mediations, and let us know what you think!
Welcome to Tough Call: A Mediation Podcast ©. This podcast was produced and sponsored by Ehler Ryshpan Bhatti Mediation & Legal Services, LLP: serving Ontario and New York, with French bilingual services in Civil Litigation matters. Translation in Spanish, Mandarin and Arabic also available.
CT Ehler is our resident Mediator and Licensed Paralegal, practicing Provincial law in Ontario. Connect for mediation directly with CT Ehler at ehlermediation@gmail.com for private mediation services.
Dale Sheldon is our resident non-Mediator, here to soundboard topics and weigh in on issues.
Jean Sarrazin is our Sound engineer and technical advisor.
This podcast commenced on October 30, 2023, and was first published April 8, 2024.
Connect with Tough Call: A Mediation podcast through socials here-
Facebook: fb://profile/100083385488618
LinkedIn: https://ca.linkedin.com/in/ehlerservices
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toughcallmediate
Email CT and Dale with your questions to toughcallmediation@gmail.com
Looking for mediation resources? Connect with our referral hub through Ehler Ryshpan Bhatti Mediation & Legal Services at info@ehlerservices.com
Cover Art credits: “Tough Call” by Norman Rockwell. For more information, visit the Norman Rockwell Foundation at https://www.nrm.org
Music track: “Intermediary thoughts” by Tyrai Laughton.
Show links -
www.erblawservices.com

Twenty: Paralegal Representation in court with Jasvir Bhatti

CT gets to sit down with Jasvir Bhatti, one of the partners of ERB Legal LLP and discuss the benefits of hiring a paralegal, especially in the areas of Provincial Offences (traffic tickets), and discuss the challenges of being a new immigrant challenges. Jasvir talks about what inspired her to get into law. 
Jasvir chats with CT about paralegal representation in court, mediation challenges, and the new wave of action toward standing up for yourself at court. Jasvir is open to listeners writing in asking questions. Check out upcoming videos for Q&As soon!
Welcome to Tough Call: A Mediation Podcast ©. This podcast was produced and sponsored by Ehler Ryshpan Bhatti Mediation & Legal Services, LLP: serving Ontario and New York, with French bilingual services in Civil Litigation matters. Translation in Spanish, Mandarin and Arabic also available.
CT Ehler is our resident Mediator and Licensed Paralegal, practicing Provincial law in Ontario. Connect for mediation directly with CT Ehler at ehlermediation@gmail.com for private mediation services.
Dale Sheldon is our resident non-Mediator, here to soundboard topics and weigh in on issues.
Jean Sarrazin is our Sound engineer and technical advisor.
This podcast commenced on October 30, 2023, and was first published April 8, 2024.
Connect with Tough Call: A Mediation podcast through socials here-
Facebook: fb://profile/100083385488618
LinkedIn: https://ca.linkedin.com/in/ehlerservices
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toughcallmediate
Email CT and Dale with your questions to toughcallmediation@gmail.com
Looking for mediation resources? Connect with our referral hub through Ehler Ryshpan Bhatti Mediation & Legal Services at info@ehlerservices.com
Cover Art credits: “Tough Call” by Norman Rockwell. For more information, visit the Norman Rockwell Foundation at https://www.nrm.org
Music track: “Intermediary thoughts” by Tyrai Laughton.
Show links -
www.erblawservices.com

Nineteen: AITA

This week on our new AITA episode, we talk about two disputes: one between a wealthy podcaster and old friends; the next about an employee facing a dilemma around food being taken from a delivery business.
Welcome to Tough Call: A Mediation Podcast ©. This podcast was produced and sponsored by Ehler Ryshpan Bhatti Mediation & Legal Services, LLP: serving Ontario and New York, with French bilingual services in Civil Litigation matters. Translation in Spanish, Mandarin and Arabic also available.
CT Ehler is our resident Mediator and Licensed Paralegal, practicing Provincial law in Ontario. Connect for mediation directly with CT Ehler at ehlermediation@gmail.com for private mediation services.
Dale Sheldon is our resident non-Mediator, here to soundboard topics and weigh in on issues.
Jean Sarrazin is our Sound engineer and technical advisor.
This podcast commenced on October 30, 2023, and was first published April 8, 2024.
Connect with Tough Call: A Mediation podcast through socials here-
Facebook: fb://profile/100083385488618
LinkedIn: https://ca.linkedin.com/in/ehlerservices
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toughcallmediate
Email CT and Dale with your questions to toughcallmediation@gmail.com
Looking for mediation resources? Connect with our referral hub through Ehler Ryshpan Bhatti Mediation & Legal Services at info@ehlerservices.com
Cover Art credits: “Tough Call” by Norman Rockwell. For more information, visit the Norman Rockwell Foundation at https://www.nrm.org
Music track: “Intermediary thoughts” by Tyrai Laughton.
Show links -
www.erblawservices.com

Eighteen: Landlord and Tenant Mediation with Khary Small

CT and Dale sit down with Khary Small, a mediator who specializes in Landlord Tenant disputes. The current situation in Ontario has created a serious backlog at the LTB. Filing forms with the Tribunal and expecting a quick resolution is not available... This is why private mediation can be a much more affordable option. 
Welcome to Tough Call: A Mediation Podcast ©. This podcast was produced and sponsored by Ehler Ryshpan Bhatti Mediation & Legal Services, LLP: serving Ontario and New York, with French bilingual services in Civil Litigation matters. Translation in Spanish, Mandarin and Arabic also available.
CT Ehler is our resident Mediator and Licensed Paralegal, practicing Provincial law in Ontario. Connect for mediation directly with CT Ehler at ehlermediation@gmail.com for private mediation services.
Dale Sheldon is our resident non-Mediator, here to soundboard topics and weigh in on issues.
Jean Sarrazin is our Sound engineer and technical advisor.
This podcast commenced on October 30, 2023, and was first published April 8, 2024.
Connect with Tough Call: A Mediation podcast through socials here-
Facebook: fb://profile/100083385488618
LinkedIn: https://ca.linkedin.com/in/ehlerservices
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toughcallmediate
Email CT and Dale with your questions to toughcallmediation@gmail.com
Looking for mediation resources? Connect with our referral hub through Ehler Ryshpan Bhatti Mediation & Legal Services at info@ehlerservices.com
Cover Art credits: “Tough Call” by Norman Rockwell. For more information, visit the Norman Rockwell Foundation at https://www.nrm.org
Music track: “Intermediary thoughts” by Tyrai Laughton.
Show links -
www.erblawservices.com
You can find Khary Small on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ksmediation/
#289- 807-5103

Seventeen: Elder Mediation

CT and Dale discuss ideas around elder mediation, but also introduce a book club! CT offers up titles for both mediators and any person interested in delving into mediation (fiction and non-fiction). Listeners - tell us about your ideas around Self-File Wills or when it's good to make end of life planning (such as Living Wills).
Welcome to Tough Call: A Mediation Podcast ©. This podcast was produced and sponsored by Ehler Ryshpan Bhatti Mediation & Legal Services, LLP: serving Ontario and New York, with French bilingual services in Civil Litigation matters. Translation in Spanish, Mandarin and Arabic also available.
CT Ehler is our resident Mediator and Licensed Paralegal, practicing Provincial law in Ontario. Connect for mediation directly with CT Ehler at ehlermediation@gmail.com for private mediation services.
Dale Sheldon is our resident non-Mediator, here to soundboard topics and weigh in on issues.
Jean Sarrazin is our Sound engineer and technical advisor.
This podcast commenced on October 30, 2023, and was first published April 8, 2024.
Connect with Tough Call: A Mediation podcast through socials here-
Facebook: fb://profile/100083385488618
LinkedIn: https://ca.linkedin.com/in/ehlerservices
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toughcallmediate
Email CT and Dale with your questions to toughcallmediation@gmail.com
Looking for mediation resources? Connect with our referral hub through Ehler Ryshpan Bhatti Mediation & Legal Services at info@ehlerservices.com
Cover Art credits: “Tough Call” by Norman Rockwell. For more information, visit the Norman Rockwell Foundation at https://www.nrm.org
Music track: “Intermediary thoughts” by Tyrai Laughton.
Show links -
www.erblawservices.com
https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/population-decline-will-change-the-world-for-the-better/
https://www.britannica.com/topic/Experience-the-American-Generations-Which-Generation-Are-You-2226598
Norsemen: https://www.netflix.com/title/80180182
John and Patricia Bertschler - "Elder mediation: a new solution to age old problems". https://www.abebooks.com/9780975937914/Elder-Mediation-New-Solution-Age-Old-097593791X/plp
Jo Leevers - "Tell me how this ends". https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/62929622-tell-me-how-this-ends
Kazuo Ishiguro - "The Remains of the Day" https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/28921.The_Remains_of_the_Day
 
 

Sixteen: Songs of Conflict and Peace

Hey listeners! What songs facilitate a calm reflective mood for you? What helps with de-stressing? Do you need music to bring up up energetically to prepare you for a stressful situation? What artists do you resonate with? This week we tackle mediation and music!
This week CT and Dale cover songs often cited in media and in conflict resolution. CT cites the mediation role of "setting the scene" and the emotional side of conflict resolution through song. Dale and CT look at music as "setting the table" and various popular songs that can be discovered in the world of Mediators as options for play or preparation for a private mediation. Dale brings up how music can prepare for negotiation. CT also shares her past in clinical massage therapy, mediation and yoga teaching, and offers her publication on meditation for self-help (Email CT Ehler for a free copy of her Meditation publication: toughcallmediation@gmail.com).
Dale confesses his lack of experience in popular music, yet brings up some important conversations in pop culture that has been influenced through music artists (example: RuPaul's comment: “If you don't love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?”). CT helps Dale navigate some popular music where artists offer up social commentary on conflict, areas of where people come together, and the nature of the human spirit through song. 
A Playlist will be made available for YouTube and listed on the Facebook page to access the list: Facebook: fb://profile/100083385488618
 
Welcome to Tough Call: A Mediation Podcast ©. This podcast was produced and sponsored by Ehler Ryshpan Bhatti Mediation & Legal Services, LLP: serving Ontario and New York, with French bilingual services in Civil Litigation matters. Translation in Spanish, Mandarin and Arabic also available.
CT Ehler is our resident Mediator and Licensed Paralegal, practicing Provincial law in Ontario. Connect for mediation directly with CT Ehler at ehlermediation@gmail.com for private mediation services.
Dale Sheldon is our resident non-Mediator, here to soundboard topics and weigh in on issues.
Jean Sarrazin is our Sound engineer and technical advisor.
This podcast commenced on October 30, 2023, and was first published April 8, 2024.
Connect with Tough Call: A Mediation podcast through socials here-
Facebook: fb://profile/100083385488618
LinkedIn: https://ca.linkedin.com/in/ehlerservices
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toughcallmediate
Connect with Tyrai Laughton at Blush productions at
Email CT and Dale with your questions to toughcallmediation@gmail.com
Looking for mediation resources? Connect with our referral hub through Ehler Ryshpan Bhatti Mediation & Legal Services at info@ehlerservices.com
Cover Art credits: “Tough Call” by Norman Rockwell. For more information, visit the Norman Rockwell Foundation at https://www.nrm.org
Music track: “Intermediary thoughts” by Tyrai Laughton.
Show links -
 
Margaret Cho - colonic therapy and Enya, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MnVTOSyNpyA
Bette Midler starts her career at the Continental Baths in NYC: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FWiDnpXCRuc
https://www.headspace.com/
RuPaul quotation: https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/76756-if-you-don-t-love-yourself-how-in-the-hell-you
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZYkBf0dbs5I
 
 
 
 

Fifteen: Daniel Cote-Ryshpan on Paralegals and Mediation

We apologize for the technical audio difficulties - including an active baby in the background. Jean Sarrazin worked magic to make it as easy to hear as possible. CT gets to sit down with Daniel Cote-Ryshpan, one of the partners of ERB Legal LLP and discuss the benefits of hiring a paralegal, especially in the areas of Self-File legal areas like Civil litigation (suing someone), family court, Wills and Estate matters, and Immigration. CT and Daniel discuss how Paralegals can either take on the legal representation in Ontario, some US States and soon British Colombia, or point out to clients when it's critical to have a lawyer represent parties. 
Daniel dives into contract law, and brings up the experiences of previous generations at the turn of the 20ths century in comparison to our modern lives today in the 21st century. Daniel discusses how arbitration and forms of mediation existed before, and points to the benefit of going back into private mediation again. 
Welcome to Tough Call: A Mediation Podcast ©. This podcast was produced and sponsored by Ehler Ryshpan Bhatti Mediation & Legal Services, LLP: serving Ontario and New York, with French bilingual services in Civil Litigation matters. Translation in Spanish, Mandarin and Arabic also available.
CT Ehler is our resident Mediator and Licensed Paralegal, practicing Provincial law in Ontario. Connect for mediation directly with CT Ehler at ehlermediation@gmail.com for private mediation services.
Dale Sheldon is our resident non-Mediator, here to soundboard topics and weigh in on issues.
Jean Sarrazin is our Sound engineer and technical advisor.
This podcast commenced on October 30, 2023, and was first published April 8, 2024.
Connect with Tough Call: A Mediation podcast through socials here-
Facebook: fb://profile/100083385488618
LinkedIn: https://ca.linkedin.com/in/ehlerservices
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toughcallmediate
Email CT and Dale with your questions to toughcallmediation@gmail.com
Looking for mediation resources? Connect with our referral hub through Ehler Ryshpan Bhatti Mediation & Legal Services at info@ehlerservices.com
Cover Art credits: “Tough Call” by Norman Rockwell. For more information, visit the Norman Rockwell Foundation at https://www.nrm.org
Music track: “Intermediary thoughts” by Tyrai Laughton.
Show links -
www.erblawservices.com

Fourteen: The Ten Conflicts in International Peacemaking in 2024

Today CT and Dale try to tackle the juggernaut that is International mediation. CT uses sources that are still developing at the time of publishing in 2024, and Dale offers his input as a kind sounding board for those of us who feel this issue is anxiety inducing. There's lots to unpack this episode, and we thank Jean Sarrazin for taking the time to edit this incredibly difficult topic. 
We want to hear from you: tell us what's going on for you during this time of great tension. Are you ok? Is your family ok? Do you have connections to the international tensions in the world? Send us your stories.
Welcome to Tough Call: A Mediation Podcast ©. This podcast was produced and sponsored by Ehler Ryshpan Bhatti Mediation & Legal Services, LLP: serving Ontario and New York, with French bilingual services in Civil Litigation matters. Translation in Spanish, Mandarin and Arabic also available.
CT Ehler is our resident Mediator and Licensed Paralegal, practicing Provincial law in Ontario. Connect for mediation directly with CT Ehler at ehlermediation@gmail.com for private mediation services.
Dale Sheldon is our resident non-Mediator, here to soundboard topics and weigh in on issues.
Jean Sarrazin is our Sound engineer and technical advisor.
This podcast commenced on October 30, 2023, and was first published April 8, 2024.
Connect with Tough Call: A Mediation podcast through socials here-
Facebook: fb://profile/100083385488618
LinkedIn: https://ca.linkedin.com/in/ehlerservices
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toughcallmediate
Connect with Tyrai Laughton at Blush productions at
Email CT and Dale with your questions to toughcallmediation@gmail.com
Looking for mediation resources? Connect with our referral hub through Ehler Ryshpan Bhatti Mediation & Legal Services at info@ehlerservices.com
Cover Art credits: “Tough Call” by Norman Rockwell. For more information, visit the Norman Rockwell Foundation at https://www.nrm.org
Music track: “Intermediary thoughts” by Tyrai Laughton.
Show links -
https://www.crisisgroup.org/global/10-conflicts-watch-2024
INTERNATIONAL MEDIATION IN THEORY AND PRACTICE: LESSONS OF NAGORNO–KARABAKH 
Irena Sargsyan M. A. Political Science
http://pdc.ceu.hu/archive/00004733/01/INTERNATIONAL_MEDIATION_IN_THEORY_AND_PRACTICE.pdf
https://www.britannica.com/topic/mediation-international-relations
https://www.crisisgroup.org/global/10-conflicts-watch-2024
https://www.aljazeera.com/news/2024/6/11/europe-preparing-for-war-as-ukraine-conflict-looms-large-report-finds